Watching someone you love struggle with weight gain and seeing how it impacts them can be really tough. What is even harder is watching them make a sincere effort, only to be let down by minimal results. My husband is one of these people. He is a former college athlete; having been fit all his life. However, once he graduated from Virginia Tech, it was as if his metabolism had come to a screeching halt. The weight just started to creep on and after 8 years, my hubby has put on nearly 55 pounds. He is constantly aware of this; making jokes about how he is now versus how he used to be. Yet I know my husband. I know that behind those jokes and cracks on his appearance or lack of physical fitness, there is a guy that wants to be fit and active again. I know he is frustrated. He wants to change. And I think we finally unveiled the real reason why his efforts have gone unrewarded for so long...
Since I had the day off from school for a doctor visit, I met Rudy for lunch yesterday. As we were eating our grilled chicken breasts and house salads (healthy), he brought up the topic of his weight loss.
"See, Lindsay? Look at what I eat for lunch! I eat well like this every single day and I can't lose weight. Even running doesn't help. I just don't get it."
It doesn't make sense, at least not on the surface. But what we discussed and what me may have figured out is that his fitness and nutritional goals are being sabotaged by the choices he makes during the weekend. Yes, an occasional splurge is healthy. But a splurge that lasts from Friday "happy hour" until Sunday night is not going to do anything to help his weight loss mission. There is a difference between a single splurge and a weekend binge. Everything is good in moderation; even moderation. To really see results, my adorable, fun, party-lovin' husband is going to need to carefully choose when to enjoy a single splurge, when to end the splurge or when to pass it up all together.
It's not easy. Eating and drinking are connected to us both socially and emotionally. But I know he can do it! Sometimes it takes an honest look at what you are truly eating to understand why the results aren't what you anticipated. Splurge calories aren't "free". They still cost us. So remember to keep those moderate splurge foods (and drinks) in true moderation. If you are a "weekend splurger" like my hubby, perhaps try a little mid-week treat to help off-set the desire to go completely overboard once the weekend rolls around.
On that note...have a Happy Fat Tuesday!! Don't get too crazy!
Hi there -
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My hubby takes in most of his calories when we eat out and they are usually liquid and fried. He says at his age he should be able to eat how he wants. I don't push it but I try to keep it better at home.
ReplyDeleteHas he ever had his thyroid checked? That causes one to have difficulty loosing weight {and makes you gain}
ReplyDeleteHi there, I can totally understand what your hubby is dealing with. I don't have any weight to lose now, but I just lost 10lb after splurging through the holidays. I used WW and am still counting points, but the weekends are ALWAYs my downfall. My hubby is on board now and it really is a struggle not to go overboard from Fri to Sun. I hope your hubby sees some great results soon.
ReplyDeleteWhat you say makes perfect sense! I wish your hubby luck with his struggles. We struggle, too, and let me tell you the struggle is tougher when you are in your late 60's and early 70's.
ReplyDeleteI just stopped by from SITS to say hi; hope you will do the same!
Your poor husband…as long as he tries. My husband is the same way actually.
ReplyDelete~Penelope (I love to write about beauty tips!)